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Cervical cancer is the most common cancer in South African women. The human papillomavirus (HPV) is the biggest risk factor for developing this cancer. However, condom use protects against HPV transmission. The purpose of the study was to investigate whether Black women living in Tshwane, South Africa, were able to protect themselves against cervical cancer by insisting on condom use. The study was exploratory, qualitative and contextual, and a convenience snowball sampling method was used. The sample size was determined through data saturation (n = 20). Selfreported data were gathered by means of interviews, and analysed using Tesch’s approach. Four themes emerged, (1) knowledge of cervical cancer, (2) sexual behaviour, (3) social problems and (4) emotions. The study provided evidence that women were not able to protect themselves from cervical cancer by insisting on condom use. Women lacked knowledge of cervical cancer and did not associate condom use with self-protection against this disease. Most of their sex partners refused to use condoms. Poverty, physical abuse, helplessness and fear prevented women from insisting on the use of condoms. Primary prevention strategies should focus on empowering women to protect themselves from cervical cancer and not leave this important issue to someone who might refuse it.


INTRODUCTION
Various neoplastic diseases are caused by viruses that are sexually transmitted, and these include cervical, vaginal and vulvar cancer, and leukaemia.Neoplastic viruses give rise to up to 500 000 new malignancies annually and in some undeveloped countries, cause as much as 50% of all cancers (Epstein 2005(Epstein :2595)).As in all sub-Saharan African countries, in South Africa, cancer of the cervix is the most common cancer in women (World Health Organization and International Union Against Cancer 2005:5;South African Medical Research Council 2008).It is a well-known fact that the human papillomavirus (HPV) is the biggest risk factor for developing cervical cancer (Cothran & White 2002:306) and it is estimated that 105 million women worldwide would at least once in their lifetime have an HPV-16 and an HPV-18 infection, the most common oncogenic type of HPV found in women with cervical cancer (Burchell et al. 2006:S52).Neoplastic viruses, like all other sexually transmitted infections, are transmitted by unsafe sex.Sex can be described as any sexual activity involving contact with body fluids (Epstein 2005(Epstein :2595)).According to Schiffman et al. (2007:892), anogenital HPV is transmitted not only by sexual intercourse (mucosa-to-mucosa transmission) but also by skin-to-skin contact.
Condom use is seen as the only barrier form of contraceptive that protects against transmission of the HPV effectively (Frega et al. 2003:131).According to Epstein (2005Epstein ( :2597)), latex condoms are impermeable to most viruses and the use of condoms would decrease the risk for cervical cancer.For Epstein (2005Epstein ( :2598)), condoms play such a major role in the primary prevention of HPV-dependent neoplasia that he advocates a sociocultural norm of 'No condom, no sex'.The Cancer Association of South Africa (CANSA 2005) also warns that women have a greater risk of cervical cancer if their sexual debut was at the young age of 15 and younger, and if a woman has many sex partners.
Primary cancer prevention includes measures to improve health practices (Mahon 2009).Using condoms is one of the health practices that may assist with the prevention of sexually transmitted cancers (Frega et al. 2003:131).It is not known if Black women living in Tshwane would be able to achieve this specific primary cancer prevention objective, as no studies are available to guide us, and our results.

PROBLEM STATEMENT
Not all women have control over their social position and sexuality, as many women in developing countries are subservient to men, are uninformed and disempowered (Denny, Quinn &
Sankaranarayanan 2006:S3/72).According to Okin (1998:36), women who are struggling against culturally and religiously imposed violations of women's rights have expressed the need to be heard.To guide nursing practice with regard to the primary prevention of cervical cancer, the nurse needs to listen carefully to women to understand if they can protect themselves against contracting the HP virus.The research question for the study arose as to whether it is possible for Black women living in Tshwane, South Africa, to protect themselves against cervical cancer, by insisting on condom use.

THEORETICAL FOUNDATION
The theoretical foundation selected for this study was Parse's Theory of Human Becoming (Mitchell 2006).According to Parse (1992), the goal of nursing practice is '... quality of life as described by the person and the family'.Quality of life is considered to be the 'whatness' that makes life what it is and consists of the meanings, feelings and thoughts of life experiences (Mitchell 2006:442).The Theory of Human Becoming assumes that individuals are free agents who are open, choose freely, are responsible for the choices made and give meaning to situations.Health is seen as a personal commitment (Parse 1990) and nurses therefore do not have control over people or their health choices (Mitchell 2006:431).The nurse enters the world of the person with a strong knowledge base, openness and self-giving (Parse 1990(Parse :139, 1992:39;:39;Mitchell 2006:443) and approaches the person and the family as a 'nurturing gardener rather than a "fix-it" mechanic' (Parse 1990:139).In true presence, the nurse invites the patient to talk about the meaning of the situation.In this process of articulation in the presence of the nurse, insights are clarified, discoveries are made and change is proposed as the individuals see themselves and their situations in a new light (Mitchell 2006:443;Parse 1992Parse :39, 1990:139):139).
Believing that individuals live their own way which is alike with, and different from, the way others live (Parse 1990:40), the researcher invited the participants to share their reality with regard to self-protection in their sexual relationships.Chimbiri (2007Chimbiri ( :1113) ) states that 'initiating a discussion of condom use for preventing infection in marriage is like bringing an intruder into the domestic space.'This was not the experience of the researcher, and Parses' Theory of Human Becoming (Mitchell 2006:431−460) led towards approaching the participants and this sensitive issue with openness.The researcher did not know the participants' meaning of condom use and trusted it would unfold in the nurse-person articulation process.Applying Parse's Theory of Human Becoming enabled the participants, despite the researcher being a White South African woman, to speak openly.The researcher, who is an oncology nurse and is completely aware of the importance of condom use to protect women against cervical cancer, did not offer professional opinions and advice on the importance of condom-use based on her own lived value system (Parse 1992:40).The researcher stayed in true presence with the participants while they described their struggles, up-and-downs, moments of joy and the unevenness of living 'in the now'.The researcher did not try to calm uneven rhythms but moved with the flow of the rhythms and recognised the struggles of the situation (Parse 1992:40).

Research context
Gauteng is the smallest province of South Africa and has a population of 8.8 million people, approximately 20% of the total South African population.More than 60% of the research and development of South Africa takes place in Gauteng, which also has the hightest per capita income in the country.The context for the study was Tshwane, a municipal area in Gauteng that hosts a population of approximately 2 million.The majority of the Tshwane population (65%) is under the age of 35 years and a little less than 50% has some secondary education.Unemployment is high (20.4%)and 58.8% has no source of income (Gauteng Tourism Authority, SA n.d.).

Research design
The research design for this study was exploratory, qualitative and contextual.A qualitative research approach was used for describing life experiences and giving meaning to these experiences (Burns & Grove 2005:747).Using an exploratory design enabled the researcher to gain new insight and increase knowledge of the research problem without comparing it to other phenomena (Welman & Kruger 1999).The study was contextual and therefore the results are only valid for the situation in which the study was done (LoBiondo- Wood & Harber 2006:561).

Population
The target population for this study was all women living in Tshwane who were from an African cultural group, older than 18 years, currently or previously involved in a sexual relationship with a male partner, able to understand and converse in English and willing to participate in the study.Burns and Grove (2005:342) describe a target population as all the individuals who meet the sampling criteria.The accessible population from which the sample was obtained (Burns & Grove 2005:342) included all women that met the target population criteria and worked at an institution of higher learning in Tshwane.

Data gathering
Data were gathered by means of self-reports using an interview consisting of two parts.Pierce, in Talbot (1995:592), emphasises that self-report methods are very effective when the purpose of the study is to obtain information about attitudes, knowledge, feelings and other information that cannot be easily observed or measured physiologically.During the first part of the interview, demographic data were collected by means of a questionnaire.During the second part of the interview, data regarding cervical cancer, condom use and the meanings, feelings and thoughts of what makes life what it is (Mitchell 2006:442) were collected.An interview schedule was used to assist in keeping the participants on track.
Women who agreed to participate were interviewed in private in the researcher's office during their lunch break, with only the researcher present, from August 2008 to October 2008.The researcher created a trusting relationship before the interviews were conducted.A voice recorder was used to record the interviews and the researcher also made notes.Although an hour was planned for the interview, the time was not limited to one hour, in order to allow the participants enough time to share their experiences.Interviews were transcribed on the day of the interview and saturation of data was achieved after the first 18 interviews.

Data analysis
Open coding, using Tesch's approach (Creswell 1994:55), was used to analyse the data.Open coding can be described as the process of breaking down and conceptualising data (Holloway & Wheeler 2002:158).The data in the voice recordings were transcribed verbatim, each transcript was read thoroughly and underlying meanings which came to mind were written down.A list of topics that occurred was made and similar topics grouped together.The most descriptive wording for the grouped topics was used for categories, and the assembled data in each category was again analysed to finalise the themes and categories.

RESULTS AND DISCUSSION
Except for the demographic data, four themes emerged from the data, (1) knowledge of cervical cancer, (2) sexual behaviour, (3) social problems and (4) emotions.Narratives of 16 women are reflected in the results; pseudonyms are used.The general characteristics of the women are presented in Table 2.
Marriage was not found to be a prerequisite for women to be in a sexual relationship.This is, however, not exceptional as Denis (2006:5), reflecting on marriage in contemporary South Africa, states that the percentage of South African women between the ages of 15 and 49 years who were married during the period 1995−1999 was significantly less than 30%.Abdool-Karim (2001:195) also found that only a 'few' sexually active women living in KwaZulu-Natal were married.Social class, rather than race or culture, results in Black people not getting married in South Africa.For many Black people, bride wealth ('lobola') which predicates marriage is simply not affordable because they are too poor (Denis 2006:5).However, in sub-Saharan Africa, even monogamous marriages remain potentially polygamous, as the nature of the marriage transaction gives men exclusive sexual rights to their partners.The same does not apply to women, and married women have an increased risk of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection due to their husband's extra-marital affairs (Hattori & Dodoo 2007:1068).

Knowledge of cervical cancer
Only one of the participants knew of the existence of cervical cancer.The remainder indicated that they had never heard of cervical cancer.One participant commented: Various studies conducted in different areas in South Africa also illustrated women's lack of knowledge of cervical cancer.In a study conducted by Heysteck et al. (1995Heysteck et al. ( :1180) at a day hospital in a township in Tshwane, it was found that only 2% of female patients had good knowledge of cervical cancer, whilst 93% were found to be ignorant.Maree and Wright (2007:63) also reported that only 45% of the women in their study conducted in another township in Tshwane were aware of cervical cancer.In an investigation done in KwaZulu-Natal, Pillay (2002:103) found that almost 20% of the women had not heard of cervical cancer.
With regard to knowledge of sexually transmitted infections, Hawken et al. (2002), Stark and Hope (2007) and Mnbaga et al. (2008), investigated women's knowledge of sexually transmitted infections and found it to be, as stated by Hawken et al. (2002), 'alarmingly low'.
Of the nine women who indicated they knew what a sexually transmitted infection was, six were of the opinion that their partners also knew what a sexually transmitted infection was, as they had discussed the matter with their partners.
To motivate that her sex partner knew what a sexually transmitted infection was, one of the women responded: 'Last time when I was pregnant, he went with me to hospital and they tested me.Then they told him about it.'(Rosie, 30) One of the two women who said that their sex partner did not have any knowledge of sexually transmitted infections expressed herself clearly: 'No, he does not know because our people do not want to listen.When we make that sex, he can't accept that condom.' (Thembi, 39) In 1997, Gomo et al. (1997:192) reported a higher level of knowledge of sexually transmitted infections in men than in women living in a farming community in Zimbabwe.However, Monthly income R801 − R1600 5 R1601 − R3200 13 R3201 − R6400 Mason (2005:266) found that men living in north-western England had limited knowledge of sexually transmitted infections.Verhoeven et al. (2006:391) found Belgian men's awareness of HPV, its sexually transmitted nature and its link to cervical cancer to be low, with male sexual behaviour being perceived as relatively unimportant in the context of cervical cancer.Makua (2008:111−112) found that South African men living in a district in north-western Tshwane had no knowledge of cervical cancer and had also never mentioned that HPV transmitted by men was a risk factor for the development of cervical cancer.

Sexual behaviour
Of the participants, 16 reported having a sexual relationship.
The partners of the four who were not in a sexual relationship had died.Lack of a current sex partner was explained as:  (2009:343) found that such concurrency was associated with being male, using alcohol and other drugs, not cohabiting with a partner and thinking that the steady partner was monogamous.
Non-religious people were also more likely to have a concurrent sexual relationship (Senn et al. 2009:822) and only 26% of persons who had a partner having a concurrent sexual relationship were aware of it (Drumright, Gorbach & Holmes 2004:437).
The use of condoms was a sensitive issue.It is true that numerous African cultures forbid women to suggest safer sexual practices (Adesoji 2005) and women also believe they have no right to such practices (Abdool-Karim 2001).According to Brandhorst, Krumboltz and Shapiro (1979:416) women often display the feminine assets of nurturance and empathy, however their socialisation does not give them permission to apply the same behaviours to themselves.Women who ask their partners to use a condom are usually viewed in a very negative light and often seen as being sexually available and ready for sex, nonconformist and overly dominant (Maharaj 2001:158).It also seems as if male rights to sexual pleasure violate the right of women to health (Oriel 2005:399) by protecting themselves from HPV and cervical cancer.
Despite possible cultural barriers, 14 participants asked their partners to use a condom, and five did not ask their partners.One did not ask her partner, but took condoms from the clinic and left it to her husband to ask the questions.Of the five women that did not ask their partner to use a condom, only three said that they trusted their partners and therefore did not deem it necessary to ask.
Reasons for not asking were explained as follows: '  (2002), and Abdullah et al. (2002:180) found that trusting the partner was predominantly the reason for not using condoms.Maharaj (2001:156) agrees, saying that for both men and women, condom use is commonly seen as offensive and suitable for casual relationships.As condoms suggest lack of trust and infidelity, they are perceived not to be suitable for stable, ongoing relationships, let alone in a marital relationship, and raising the issue of condom use creates tension, anger and even confrontation.
Another reason for not asking their partner to use a condom was fear: 'I am too scared to ask him to use a condom because I am scared that he will beat me.If I say that thing he will beat me.He will say why do you say that thing?' (Prudence, 44) In a study describing obstacles in negotiating dual sexual protection, Maharaj (2001:156) found that it is expected of the woman to convince her partner to use a condom when she fears being infected.This does not appear possible in abusive relationships, as Oriel (2005:395) observes that women in situations of domestic violence sometimes give in to sex simply because they are too afraid for their lives to say 'no'.Of the participants, 12 reported that their partners refused to use a condom and three were even beaten because they asked their partners to do so.Two partners changed their minds after refusing initially; it is not clear what effected the mind-change.However, Williamson et al. (2006:89) found in their study that women's insistence, refusal to have sex, persuasion and family planning reasons persuaded their partner to agree.Narratives of women indicating refusal of condom use by their partners and their feelings and reactions are reflected in Table 3.
Despite being asked, the participants' partners refused to use condoms and reacted by saying that they were faithful, threatened to take another partner that would have sex without a condom, accused the female partner of infidelity, and even beat her.Various reasons for refusing condom use have been reported previously.Except for trusting the partner, other reasons preventing men from using condoms are (1) a preference for flesh-to-flesh contact (Maharaj 2001:156;Singer et al. 2006Singer et al. :2018)), ( 2) an interruption of sexual activity, (3) discomfort (Maharaj 2001:156;Agha et al. 2002:180) and ( 4) reduction of sensation (Abdullah et al. 2002:183;Randolph et al. 2007:844).
However, it appears that the real problem with condom use is the fact that is it not used (Steiner, Cates & Warner 1999:450), which Oriel (2005:398) relates to the maintenance of masculinity.
Men refusing to use condoms and still having sexual intercourse violate the human rights of women, that is, the right to health, bodily integrity and even the right to life (Oriel 2005:399).
According to Albertyn (2003), South African women have little say in their sexual relations because of cultural norms and the patriarchal system.Gavey, McPhillips and Doherty (2001) outline anecdotal reports that suggest that South African women have been beaten because they tried to negotiate safer sex.
This study provides evidence that corroborates such reports.
According to Maharaj and Cleland (2005), there is nothing a woman can do if her husband refuses to use a condom.For some of the women, not being able to do anything was indeed a reality: Participant Lerato reported that her husband refused to use a condom because he had paid 'lobola' for her.According to Maharaj (2001:157) paying 'lobola' empowers men to feel that they can dictate the conditions under which sexual acts can occur and physical violence is even used to force a woman to submit in their sexual relationship.
Four of the respondents' partners agreed to use a condom.In Table 4, narratives of partners who were prepared to use a condom are reflected.Woodsong and Koo (1999:575) reported positive associations with condom use: Men using condoms are seen to care about themselves and their partner and are thought to show respect for the woman.Men also accept condoms to please their partner, protect her, himself and their children, and even to continue having other partners (Williamson et al. 2006:89).A woman who prefers a condom is seen as having a good self-esteem (Woodsong & Koo 1999:575).

Social problems
Domestic violence was part of the lives of nine women.Except for violence that was mentioned as part of condom use, five reported other incidences.Domestic violence was described as follows: 'He beat me many, many times ... he would take the blankets off me, put it on the ground and beat me.' (Lerato, 48) 'When he fights with me, he beats me and threatens me with a gun ...' (Thula,40) Of the nine women who were victims of violence, only two defended themselves.They related their situations as follows: 'I ask him -what are you doing?Do you want to fight?And then I say to him if he wants to fight, let's fight and then I beat him too ...' (Thembi, 39) 'I ran to the police station and I slept there.The next morning they came to catch my husband.They gave him a three-year sentence ...' (Lily, 56) One of the women who did not protect herself stated: 'I did nothing.When I told my mother she said -you made the choice, he is your husband.' (Lerato, 48) Violence against women does not comprise merely physical incidents (Hegarty & Roberts 2008:49).The United Nations, according to the World Health Organization ( 2008), defines violence against women as: Any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in, physical, sexual or mental harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life.
(World Health Organization 2008) Avoidance is one of the post-traumatic responses women experience when subjected to violence (Hou, Wang & Chung 2003:353;Hou, Wang & Chung 2005:633) and can even continue for years after the abusive relationship ends (Hou, Wang & Chung 2003:355).
This study supports the findings of various surveys conducted on abuse of South African women (Wood, Jewkes & Abrahams 1997;Dangor, Hoff & Scott 1998;Jewkes, Levin & Renn-Kekana 2002).According to Jewkes et al. (2002), the lifetime prevalence of experiencing physical violence from a current or previous husband or boyfriend is 24.6% for women in South Africa.Dangor et al. (1998), maintain that violence against women is due to the endemic culture of violence in South Africa, as well as customs, culture and tradition that change women into objects and male property.According to Goetz et al. (2008) the male mind might be designed to be hypersensitive to cues of sexual infidelity and is therefore prone to conclude, incorrectly, that infidelity has occurred.It seems that the most dangerous environment for a South African woman is the home she lives in (Okin 1998).
Alcohol abuse added to the difficulties of the respondents.Alcohol use was a problem in the lives of eight women and was also mentioned in relation to violence and sexual behaviour.Not only were women beaten when their partners were drunk, but the men also wanted unprotected sex.The following statements confirm this finding: 'He was a drunk ... he drinks a lot ... Especially when he was drunk he beat me ...' (Thula, 40) 'When he drinks, he wants sex without a condom.' (Ntombi,53) This finding supports the association between alcohol use and risky sexual behaviours like inconsistent condom use, sex exchange and multiple partners, which increases the sexual risk for women (Kalichman et al. 2006;Hutton et al. 2008).
The participants suffered financial hardship: Most of them were poor and had to rely on their partners for financial survival.The average income of the women who were sole breadwinners was R1780 per month, with an average of three dependents.Eight women expressed that they could not make ends meet and used their relationship as a survival strategy.Abdool-Karim (2001) reported the same phenomenon.Poverty is one of the reasons women hand sexual control over to men (Ankrah 1995;Kalichman et al. 2007;Kim & Pronyk 2008).Food insufficiency was also found to be an important risk factor for increased sexual risk-taking among women (Weiser et al. 2007)

Emotions
Of the participants, 15 feared contracting a sexually transmitted infection (STI), most commonly AIDS.This fear is in contrast with the findings of Abdool-Karim ( 2001) who found that women in KwaZulu-Natal did not realise that they were at risk.Only one participant in this study did not discern her risk: Not only did she have two partners, she also preferred that her boyfriend did not use a condom during every sexual encounter.
One woman indicated that she had AIDS and had been infected by her partner with whom she had a long-standing relationship.
A lack of trust in the fidelity of the partner was the reason participants feared being infected: 10 women did not trust their partners as they had proof of their infidelity and only four trusted their partners.
Fear of infection was related as follows: 'My husband, he wanted many women.Fear of being exposed to STIs is described by Fischbach andHerbert (1997:1167) in their narration of the lived experience of a Kenyan woman after returning home from studying abroad.Hughes, Hoyo and Puoane (2006:434) also describe the fear of women in their observation that 36% of rural South African women feared contracting STIs from their returning migrant worker partners, yet almost none protected themselves and the 8% who used condoms used it for contraceptive purposes primarily.Chimbiri (2007Chimbiri ( :1110) ) found that concern about infection did not lead to a discussion of condom use in marriage.
Culturally defined gender roles in South Africa dictate that communication should occur from the man to the woman: Should a woman suggest using a condom, it is likely to lead to misunderstanding, conflict, suspicion of infidelity and violence (Maharaj 2001:158).
Fear of losing a partner also makes women reluctant to request condom use (Singer et al. 2006).This was also the case for the respondents in this study, and fear and helplessness were expressed: '

ETHICAL CONSIDERATIONS
The ethical principles as outlined in the Belmont Report (Polit & Beck 2004), beneficence, respect of human dignity and justice, were followed by the interviewer in her invitation of the women to talk about self-protection in their sexual relationships.Informed consent was obtained from participants before the interviews.Anonymity and confidentiality were ensured by interviewing the women in private and using pseudonyms when transcribing the interviews.The views of participants were respected and time was allowed for them to raise queries.Furthermore, the research proposal was peer-reviewed by the Departmental and Faculty Research and Innovations Committees of the Tshwane University of Technology and approved by the Ethics Committee of the same university.

TRUSTWORTHINESS
Trustworthiness or the merit of qualitative enquiry (Krefting 1991:241) depends on four strategies: Credibility, transferability, dependability and confirmability.The strategies and criteria to enhance trustworthiness during data gathering and analysis are summarised in Table 1.

LIMITATIONS OF THE STUDY
The contextual nature of the study limited the application of the results to the community of Tshwane.Also, using a convenience snowball sample could lead to a sampling bias, as the participants were not independent of one another.The collation of data using self-reports could also lead to recall bias.The researcher's influence on the participants and perspective on the research topic could also have influenced the results of the study, however, this itself was limited by applying Parse's Theory of Human Becoming.No problems were experienced in undertaking the research and participants had the opportunity to be heard.One participant responded at the end of the interview: 'I feel much better.It was nice to be able to talk.' (Annah, 49)

RECOMMENDATIONS
Primary prevention of cervical cancer is not a simple endeavour.Educational strategies should also target men, as they are key role players in the transmission of HPV.Primary prevention strategies should also focus on empowering women to protect themselves from cervical cancer and not to leave this important issue to others that might refuse it.This should improve women's access to recourses and advocacy for women's rights as equals.Female condoms should be introduced and made available to women to enable self-protection.All of these recommendations cannot be achieved without continuous support and counselling.Finally, the outcomes of primary prevention interventions should be evaluated continuously by means of research and improved according to the outcomes of evaluations.These suggestions may contribute to decreasing the numbers of women who die from a preventable, sexually transmitted cancer.

CONCLUSION
The study provided evidence that the participants were not able to protect themselves from cervical cancer by insisting on condom use.These women lacked knowledge about cervical cancer and therefore could not associate condom use with selfprotection against this disease.However, they did want their partners to use condoms as they did not trust them.Most of their partners refused to use condoms and when asked to do so, threatened, beat and accused their partners of being unfaithful.The respondents also experienced social problems because domestic violence, alcohol abuse and financial hardship were a reality for many of them.The subjects experienced fear and helplessness.For many, personal circumstances of poverty, physical abuse, helplessness and fear prevented them from insisting on condoms, even though they were aware of their partner's unfaithfulness. http://www.hsag.co.za

Original Research
Article #506 Maree (page number not for citation purposes) snowball sampling method (LoBiondo-Wood & Harber 2006) was used.Snowball sampling takes advantage of social networks (LoBiondo-Wood & Harber 2006) and the first woman recruited for the study recruited the others.Twenty participants were interviewed (n = 20).
That cancer, I have never heard of it ...' 'I hear if you go to the toilet you will get the AIDS and also from the TB.' (Lily, 56) One participant linked the number of sex partners to infections: 'When a husband gets more girlfriends, you get more infection.The infection comes slow, slow, slow and next time it can cause TB.' (Prudence, 44)

TABLE 1
Strategies and criteria to enhance trustworthiness My husband was very, very cross when I asked him to use a condom.He died … That is why I am scared of a man.' 'I have two sex partners, my husband and a boyfriend.Only two − not three ... My husband does not know ...' (Sarah, 54) Despite the fact that multiple, concurrent sexual relationships appear to be an acceptable norm in many South African communities (iolHIVAids.co.za site 2008), only one woman had two concurrent sexual partners.Concurrent sexual behaviour does not appear to be a tendency in women.Although Carter et al. (2007:822) reported a concurrent sexual relationship in 23% of their population sample living in Botswana, Senn et al.

TABLE 3
Women's narratives on the use of a condom red and warm?Last Monday was the last time that we had sex without a condom.I told him -no sex if you do not use a condom.If you come to me and don't use a condom, I will tell the police that you raped me.'(Ntombi, 53)

TABLE 4
Narratives of partners who did not refuse to use condoms and the reaction of the women

Reaction of male partner when asked to use a condom Reaction of woman '
I asked him to use a condom, because he is a new man and I did not know where he walked before.He was not cross because he knows that people of Pretoria has infection.''Itdoes not bother me that we use a condom now, but I do not know if it would bother me other times.We will go to the doctor and get a test and if we are both clean we will stop the condom.We agreed.'(Annah,49)